The Tend Blog

Research-backed insights on nurturing the relationships that matter most.

The 6-Hour Relationship: What Happy Couples Do Differently

Gottman's research reveals that thriving couples invest just six hours a week in small, consistent rituals of connection. It's not grand gestures that keep love alive -- it's the small things, done often. Here's what the research says and how to put it into practice.

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When Your Marriage Feels Like Roommates: Why It Happens and How to Come Back

If you and your partner feel like roommates, you're not failing. Learn why emotional drift happens, the 5 stages of disconnection, and research-backed ways to rebuild intimacy.

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How to Reconnect With Your Partner After Baby: 5 Things That Actually Work

Struggling to reconnect after baby? Here are 5 specific actions that take less than 10 minutes each and actually bring you closer -- backed by research.

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The Tuesday Night Moment That Changed My Marriage

A single question on the most ordinary night of the week reminded one couple that small things make a big difference in a relationship. A story about coming back.

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30 Daily Questions That Actually Change Your Relationship (Not the Boring Ones)

Most couples questions are useless. These 30 are organized into 5 categories backed by Gottman's Love Maps research and designed to deepen real connection.

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The science of emotional bids: why 86% matters

A single number predicts whether your relationship will last. Gottman's research on emotional bids is the most actionable relationship science ever published.

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Why your closest relationships get the least attention

The proximity paradox: the people we love most are often the ones we invest in least. Research shows why this happens and what small, consistent actions can reverse it.

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I built an app based on Gottman's research. Here's what I learned about relationships.

What 40 years of studying 3,000 couples taught me about building technology for relationships. The surprising insights, the hard tradeoffs, and why an app can never replace a real conversation.

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Why Knowing Your Love Language Isn't Enough (And What To Do Instead)

You took the quiz. Now what? Knowing your love language is step one -- but practicing it daily is what actually changes your relationship. 5 specific actions for each language.

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The Relationship Drop Nobody Warns You About (And How To Fight It)

67% of couples experience a significant satisfaction drop after their first baby. It's not a failure -- it's predictable. Here's the data and 5 things you can do about it.

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The 4 Things That Predict Divorce (And Their Antidotes)

Gottman's Four Horsemen -- criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling -- predict divorce with over 90% accuracy. Here's what they look like and the specific antidote for each.

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