Tend closes the gap between how much you love someone and how often they feel it. Our AI learns how your partner loves — and delivers the right gesture, at the right moment, every day.
One email a week with research-backed ways to show up for the people you love. No spam, just science.
Not a quiz. Not a content library. An AI that learns YOUR relationship and shows you exactly how to show up.
Stop wondering what to do — Tend learns each person's love language, your style, and the relationship, then tells you exactly what gesture will land today.
When you know what you feel but not how to say it — an apology, a celebration, something hard — AI drafts the words grounded in real communication science.
NewOne question a day, answered separately, revealed together. Thirty seconds that turn "how was your day" into something real.
MutualSometimes you don't need words. One tap to say "thinking of you" or "proud of you" — a moment of connection that lands even on the busiest day.
When a conversation goes sideways, get back on track. Identifies the pattern, reframes it with Gottman and NVC science, and helps you breathe before you respond.
Gottman + NVCKnow their dreams, their stressors, what they'd do with a free afternoon. Sixty questions that help you understand their inner world better than anyone.
The little traditions that keep you close — weekly walks, Sunday calls, morning check-ins. Build streaks together and get a gentle reminder when life gets in the way.
Gottman found that couples who turn toward each other 86% of the time stay together. See how often you're showing up — and where you can do better.
Gottman MethodKeep your most meaningful conversations in the place built for them. Real-time messaging with the people you're actively tending.
NewBring your family, your friend circle, or any group into one space. Tend isn't just for couples — it's for everyone who matters.
NewThree multiplayer games — Deeper, Guess Who Said It, and Hot Seat — that turn screen time into real connection. 600+ questions across every level of closeness.
NewWhen something's been weighing on you both, an AI mediator walks you through it — step by step, grounded in NVC and Gottman science. Not a replacement for therapy, but a tool for the everyday friction that builds up.
AI TherapyNot your whole contact list — just the 5 to 10 people who deserve more than autopilot. Organize them by closeness, and Tend helps you show up for each one differently.
See the health of each relationship at a glance — caring streaks, warmth, and where you might be drifting apart.
One question. You both answer, then reveal together. Gratitude, honesty, dreams, fun — the kind of conversation that used to happen naturally. Now it happens on purpose.
What's one small thing they did recently that made your day better?
Some things need to be talked through. An AI mediator — grounded in Nonviolent Communication and the Gottman Method — listens to both sides and walks you through it, step by step. No $200 session required.
Not a replacement for therapy. A tool for the everyday friction, misunderstandings, and stuck points that build up when you don't address them.
I hear you, Sarah. When you came home to an empty table three nights in a row, you felt lonely and invisible. That makes sense — you need to feel like family time matters.
Sometimes you don't need words. One tap to send "thinking of you," "proud of you," or "missing you" — a micro-moment of warmth that says more than a text ever could.
An apology, a celebration, something hard to say — pick the situation, describe what happened, and AI drafts the words. Grounded in real research on how apologies heal and how celebrating together strengthens bonds.
A quick quiz about your love language and communication style. Takes under a minute.
Add the 5–10 people closest to you. They join, and you're connected — no awkward setup.
Tend learns each relationship and tells you exactly what to do — the right gesture, at the right moment.
Small things, done often, compound. The science is clear — and you'll feel it before the data shows it.
"The difference between couples who stay together and those who divorce comes down to one thing: how they handle everyday moments of connection."
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
"Love is not something we feel, but something we do. The choice to love is not a feeling; it is an action."
The 5 Love Languages
"A genuine apology isn't just words. It's a brave act of self-confrontation that can transform a relationship."
Why Won't You Apologize?
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Read more →Same Gottman research. Same NVC principles. A fraction of the cost — and it's there for you every day, not once a week.
Your relationship doesn't have a caring problem — it has a showing-it problem. Tend closes that gap in 30 seconds a day.
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